Like I said, more times than not, I often dreaded the concept of working with other students on projects. Everybody always has conflicts with one anothers' schedules, and it always seems that meetings take place at the most inappropriate times. So needless to say, in my abnormal psychology class my heart sank the first day of class upon hearing there was a large group assignment that was to be done at the end of the semester.
Meeting every member of my group went fine. Of course, there was the awkward small talk guaranteed with every new encounter, but bit by bit we picked away at the surface of each others' characters and all found something we extremely liked. By some weird coincidence we had all been competitive soccer players throughout our childhoods, and early teens. From talking to one another, we discovered we all shared a burning passion from the sport, and from then on all my group anxieties disappeared. Communicating about the assignment became effortless. Everyone was extremely comfortable with working around scheduling conflicts for group meetings, and whenever we got together we had a blast.
In time we even began to organize small pickup games between ourselves that we undertook when we felt pleased with the amount of the assignment we had already finished. Of course, this cohesion transferred over to our school work and we received an A on our assignment. I feel the reason this went so well was due to our similar personalities. I feel that when an athlete plays a sport for so long they develop a mindset in relation to their particular sport. Mostly due to long-term effects from large exposure to the elements of the sport in question. Because of this, I feel we all shared similar personalities through similar experiences with the sport. We all played in big tournaments, all played since a young age, and all were exceptional soccer players. As a result, we respected one another and thought similarly which created an extremely strong group chemistry that was reflected in our high grade on the assignment.
I wish all my group experiences went as well as this one, but unfortunately not all experiences are what we hope they would be. This had a lot to do with the time my fraternity made the decision to kick out one of its members. The decision required a unanimous decision, with every member of the house planning, and took a lot of preparation. Since I was on the executive board at this time, I had to work long hours with other members to determine how this process should play out. The problem was that our fraternity was so diverse, and with diversity often comes different opinions.
As a fraternity we were basically composed of nearly every high school clique you could think of. You name it we had it. We prided ourselves on the different characters we had within our walls, and felt because of this it made us stronger. On the contrary though, in this particular situation it made us weaker. Cliques soon formed after we proposed to kick the alleged member out for threatening the executive committee of our house. Some felt his threat was warranted and others certainly felt it was going too far. His plan was to sue the fraternity over fines which were rightfully appropriated to him for missing mandatory ritual practice. It was mandatory for all members, and any member not present was fined.
He extended this threat months on end, and often made life in the house unbearable. This is why we wanted him gone. However there were members of the committee who were friends with him, part of his so called "clique". Due to this, they shot down every proposition we brought forward on the matter. In the end the house determined to kick him out, after we decided a hearing was the only matter of action left. It went terribly. twenty members dropped immediately feeling as we had been unfair, and half our officers resigned at the time. This left our house in brief turmoil.
I definitely feel this happened due to conflicting personalities. Different people with different views, often makes it hard to arrive at a single conclusion. Also, the act of this one individual was the catalyst for all this disaster. We tried reasoning with him, but he was insistent on taking legal action, even when he had no credible ground to stand upon. His fine was not unusual, but what he chose caused great calamity and severed any cohesion we once had within the house.